Search for the Lesson…

After all that I have been through, I have developed a firm belief that everything happens for a reason.   It is never easy to see in the moment, but there might be a really good reason that you are being put through the trials and tribulations that you are facing.  How do you react when things aren’t going your way at all?

Feel free to learn from my mistakes.  I’ve tried screaming and punching things when I was young.  It never really fixed anything.  In fact, besides a sore hand and a painful throat, I also felt much worse afterwards.  As a young adult, I’ve tried to play the victim.  I would rationalize it and make excuses about how it wasn’t my fault.  I then looked for reasons why I should run away and start over.  Of course, as they say, the grass was never greener on the other side.  

Today I found myself in a similar situation.  I was overwhelmed, burned out, and upset at the situation at hand.  I noticed myself going into the same patterns, but this time instead of looking to run away, I refocused to find healthy ways to recover and get over my frustration.  I isolated myself as much as possible and took some deep breaths.  I wrote this post to get all of my feelings out in a more productive way than I would have.  I am proud of how I reacted.  

Now I will spend the rest of the night looking for meaning in this lesson by asking quality questions.  What do I need to do differently going forward?  What can I change in my life to make sure that I am put in situations like this as minimally as possible?  And hopefully, more that I will continue to come up with.  

Never stop believing in yourself!  Talk to you soon 🙂

-Dan Sims

19 thoughts on “Search for the Lesson…

  1. I to believe that there is a reason why things happen and that there is a lesson in everything. I’m glad you see that as well, keep searching and you’ll find one for sure.

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  2. Very well put. For a long time, I found myself pinging between the unproductive reactionary and hopeless victim, not realizing there are additional options available. Thank you for putting it to words. Have a wonderful New Year!

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  3. Dan this is so true. Growth never stops with age. We should continue to be the best versions of ourselves by learning from our past. Way to recognize you were slipping into old patterns and be able to implement healthier coping skills. I’m unbelievably proud of you.

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  4. Writing has the power to entertain, inform and very often is therapeutic.
    The knowledge inside your mind that you wanted to verbalise your emotions was strong whereas a few years ago, the emotion overwhelmed you long enough for a short burst of anger which emanated itself out through your limbs.
    Being able to control that (essential, don’t forget) emotion is mature, responsible.
    We need to be able to feel anger at times – we would be robots if we didn’t. Knowing what to do with it is the key.
    What a great start to your year – being proud of yourself. I am proud of you too! ☺️


  5. Hi Dan!!! Just wanted to pop in and say thanks for liking my post on my blog. I’m now following your blog and it sounds so very interesting and profound. Hope you’re having a great week. Thanks again, take care, hugs!!!

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  6. Hi Dan, thanks for liking my site! As for things happening for a reason – have a read of Carl Jung’s ‘Synchronicity’. He writes about ‘meaningful coincidences’ to me this is more aligned to ‘things happen for a reason’! Happy New Year!

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