Sometimes you need to make a decision in the moment. There are of course some things that can’t wait. Other times there are things that would be much better off putting off to the next day. From my experience, you are always better to wait to respond in the following situations:
You are upset, frustrated, overwhelmed,etc.
I was taught a lesson in my teenage years that really stuck with me, ‘Never make a decision when you are angry’. It’s great advice. You are not thinking clearly when you are angry and might say or do something that you will regret later on. Take a deep breath, manage your reactions and comments, and then assess the situation when you are calm the next day and make a decision. You still might decide to leave your partner, quit your job, etc. Or you might see how the hot-headed decision you almost made in the moment is not what you truly want to make for your future. Either way, it will be a well thought-out decision that you will be able to live with going forward.
The other person is upset, frustrated, overwhelmed, etc.
If I’ve learned anything from dealing with 2 Baby mama’s, it’s that you will never get your point across to someone who is angry and combative. I imagine they might have learned the same lesson from me as well. If a situation can wait to be discussed tomorrow, it is always better to wait. Then when you can talk to them calmly, take the time to really listen to what they have to say and acknowledge their point of view. Then you get your point across and be heard by them. You’d be surprised how much more can be accomplished and how many fewer four letter words need to be said.
Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂