Let me share a lesson that I learned the hard way the last time I got fit. About 6 years ago, I had lost 100 pounds and dropped to the healthiest weight of my life. Then the compliments poured in. Everywhere I went someone who hadn’t seen me in awhile would say, ‘Wow Dan, you look great!’. It felt so good to be complimented after years of being embarrassed by my appearance. I started to become addicted to the compliments.
Once I got to a certain level of success, I started to feel as if others perception of me had changed. These are the beliefs that I created about the situation:
-Now I’m looking better than some of my peers and they are jealous of my appearance.
-I was more likeable when I was overweight because others weren’t threatened by me.
You see, I failed to see what was really going on. I was so focused on my own ego. When I went out, I would scan the room and wait for someone to compliment me. After all, I deserve it for all I accomplished. Right? But as we all know, no one can be a good leader if they are all about themselves. It wasn’t others looking at me different because of my appearance, it was because of my arrogance!
The lesson is that the real gift you get by being healthier is that you have more energy to help and serve others. Sure, the compliments will still come, but that shouldn’t be your focus. Look around the room and ask, ‘how can I care for and support others?’. Use your new gifts to empower and grow the people around you and the love and recognition will come your way as well. It’s the ultimate Win, Win!!
Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂