Motivational speaking legend Jim Rohn says that you will find yourself in the same status as your 5 closest friends. With that in mind, who do you keep in your inner circle? Who do you spend most of your time with? Are they supportive and building you up, or are they destructive and dragging you down?
I know that the decisions can be tough sometimes. Maybe there is someone close to you that is a family member or old friend that has been there for you in the past. It can be hard to look at the grey area and want to give them the benefit of the doubt. But is that always the best thing?
In Dr. Phil McGraw’s book Life Code, he created a list of toxic people that need to be removed from your life. He calls them BAITERS. It stands for:
If a person falls in any of these categories, it is better to create separation or cut ties all together. Again, if they fit into those categories, there is little chance you can change them. You need to accept that they are who they are. I know what you’re thinking, he might have cheated in his last relationship, but I’m different. Or he might have been abusive in his last relationship, but I’m different. Chances are that you likely are not all that different, and they will continue the same behavior pattern with you. It’s a tough choice to make, but it is probably the most important.
Never stop believing in yourself! Talk to you soon 🙂