I went through I really bad breakup when I was in my young 20’s. She was a good person who fell into a world of drug use which resulted in a downward spiral of bad decisions. I was distraught for months after and would walk around with a dark cloud over my head. I would want other people to feel bad for me, so I could sulk and complain. Would dwell over the idea that someday she would realize that leaving me was a huge mistake.
That is until a friend of mine said something to me that changed everything. She said, “Dan, I have been there too and I know what it’s like to be under the influence. She isn’t thinking clearly and may never realize.”. This changed everything for me. I stopped waiting for her timeline and moved on with the understanding that she me never realize. It was like a weight lifted off of my shoulders.
I have since been through many other disappointments and frustrations. I redirect myself anytime I think this way. I find it is much healthier to focus on the things you have control over and focus on what you can do to recover.
You got this!