I went through I really bad breakup when I was in my young 20’s.  She was a good person who fell into a world of drug use which resulted in a downward spiral of bad decisions.  I was distraught for months after and would walk around with a dark cloud over my head.  I would want other people to feel bad for me, so I could sulk and complain.  Would dwell over the idea that someday she would realize that leaving me was a huge mistake.

That is until a friend of mine said something to me that changed everything.  She said, “Dan, I have been there too and I know what it’s like to be under the influence.  She isn’t thinking clearly and may never realize.”.  This changed everything for me.  I stopped waiting for her timeline and moved on with the understanding that she me never realize.  It was like a weight lifted off of my shoulders.

I have since been through many other disappointments and frustrations.  I redirect myself anytime I think this way.  I find it is much healthier to focus on the things you have control over and focus on what you can do to recover.

You got this!

-Dan Sims